• Townlately@feddit.nl
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    10 days ago

    Normalize understanding that men and women aren’t very different in this regard. I once asked a girl what was going on in her head and she was thinking about stinkbugs, and if you could handle them carefully enough to not get stanked.

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    8 days ago

    If you aren’t willing to engage with your partner about their weird little interests, don’t expect them to engage with you about yours. This goes for all genders.

  • Lucky_777@lemmy.world
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    10 days ago

    100%. When my wife asks me this question, I always ask…“are you sure you want to know?”.

    Once it was the astronomical odds of reincarnation if bacteria was a factor when reincarnating. The math just isn’t there and your odds of coming back as a human would be older than the universe.

    She rarely asks me this ever now lol.

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    10 days ago

    A short while back someone posted or commented something like “Brains are mostly fat and water. No wonder they’re screwing up all the time.” That has stuck with me. It shouldn’t come as a surprise that a mashed potato with self-awareness thinks about shit all the time.

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    9 days ago

    I had just bought a Camry Hybrid and my wife and I were driving in it doing errands… I have a tell when something is on my mind and my wife invariably asks what it is. Usually it really isn’t anything significant and that time was no different…

    Except…

    I launched into a very detailed explanation as to how the Toyota Hybrid Synergy system really works and it lasted till we got home… Did I mention we had three stops and we’re on our way to the first?

    She has not asked what is on my mind since.

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      10 days ago

      This is a tragedy to me, one of the many reasons I married my wife is because she’s the only person who has ever been excited to hear my info dumps.

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        10 days ago

        She still asks on occasion, but she takes me more seriously when I say it’s nothing all that important.

        Oh if I’m thinking through something that we both need to have a say in I absolutely share my thoughts as she does with me. j

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          10 days ago

          That’s a bit more comforting to hear. I love a story about healthy communication.

          My spouse now knows more about 3d printing and the complex geopolitical state of fantasy settings than most actual fans do.

      • Scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech
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        9 days ago

        Same, I feel so bad for people whose spouses aren’t interested. I hope they’re exaggerating here, because the story is sad.

        My story, I’m a giant train nerd. Any types, got model trains, ride them frequently, it’s my thing. For the first few years I was terrified to mention it, and man do I regret not doing it earlier. She is interested because I’m interested! She now shares my interests with me. We’ve gone on now 6 or so long distance sleepers here in the states and love it. I can’t imagine having a spouse who actively didn’t want to share interests

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          9 days ago

          That’s so freaking cute! My spouse is a dino and space babe and while I’ve never been invested enough to really get into either, I love learning and I love her excitement. So we take turns info dumping and I now have a new found love for paleontology.