I’ve noticed that there seems to be an emphasis on being extremely serious at all times, as if every single comment is a PhD dissertation being evaluated or something. There’s like this weird, subtle one upmanship about every little thing and a lot of people are very nitpicky and judgmental. It kind of takes the fun out of being on here, TBH. Or am I the only one experiencing this?

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    At first, I was very cautious here. After Reddit, I was expecting that people would go through post histories and attack me for misunderstandings and call me an AI bot, like some users do in sites like Reddit… But no. I haven’t had any issues, even when I have put out more controversial opinions or asked dumb questions. I have gotten downvoted occasionally when I have been wrong or misunderstood, which is fair. I have gotten replies from people with different opinions, but they have been polite and sticked in the topic, which is fucking amazing. I haven’t had a single even slightly unpleasant interaction so far.

    Folk here have been very helpful, polite, funny or neutral. I’m actually becoming more brave at posting and commenting, and I no longer feel fearful/unpleasant when I see that I have an unread notification. Of course there are communities I have blocked or instances that I avoid but that’s just to curate my feeds.

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      For me it’s the opposite. Every time I make a fresh account on here I engage a lot in the beginning while the experience is still positive, then as the replies start to feel more pointed and personal I back off more and more.

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        “Every time I make a fresh account”

        Why do you need to keep making new accounts?

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          Not op, but I keep deleting and creating new accounts too. It just internet hygiene at this point.

          I’m from Bora Bora btw. See?

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            “Hygiene” as in “no-one would take me seriously with this comment history so time to make a new one”?

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              Hygiene as in I don’t want to get doxxed, or have someone compiling a profile on me. What do I care if a rando takes me seriously or not? 🤷‍♂️

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                I don’t want to get doxxed

                Do you post your name and/or address or anything that could be used to ID you? How is changing an account going to influence that.

                “Someone compiling a profile on me”

                Sure, yeah, buddy. “They’re following YOU, but luckily making a new account completely gets rid of whatever tinfoil entity you’re imagining.”

                The only people I could see that being a problem for is anyone part of anything organised and not wanting to get caught.

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                  Considering the US government is currently dragging people to court over their innocuous social media posts, maybe this take is a little short-sighted.

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                    Getting a murder-length sentence in Texas for hiding a box of antifascist zines is all you need to know about the new privacy situation.

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                    Yes the US intelligence apparatus must be just so lost when you create a new account on Lemmy. Ofc they are. You’re safe from them by doing that.

                    #/S

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          You should always change accounts once in a while, just for online safety alone. Creating a long history of comments gives a lot of data about you, and the longer, the more. And that is not a good thing in these AI-data-mining days.

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            Yeah AI will scrape your writings despite the username. So what are you exactly afraid of, personally?

            And no, this isn’t the “if you’ve nothing to hide you’ve nothing to fear”- argument. I’m pro-privacy. I understand loads of people like it and I think it’s a human right. But personally I don’t care about it, for me. I care about it for humanity. And I understand that if you’re for instance a hard line government critic in an autocratic state, you might want to make it harder for them to find you.

            But like, I generally don’t believe that just making a new account and having a different username would make any difference to the government’s ability to track you. If you have a poorly IT literate stalker, then sure, it would be immensely useful.

            But against government apparati actually focused on you? Like the NSA? Juutosisnaatoimiikimuutevarmaa

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              For me personally, it is frankly more about paranoia towards other people. I am transgendered, so I have learned to always be vary, there are no pictures of me online. I do not have any social media accounts, outside relatively anonymous stuff like lemmy. And even here I would never give out an actual email, or any other personal details that can be easily tracked. I know that while you are on the internet, you cannot really escape the surveillance (except maybe on tor, but yes that is not so simple either), but that does not mean you should make things easier, for any random person, company or anything. I do not think it is good if anyone can read years worth of your personal comments.

              Eik näe AI aekana mikkee, eiees muruteella puhummine autakkaa ennee juu

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                That’s not changing an account, that’s avoiding having one.

                but that does not mean you should make things easier, for any random person, company or anything

                So why not make a new user each and every time? Would make it harder for them. (The slippery slope works both ways.)

                Except people can still read that with AI;

                I don’t see Al at all, I don’t think I’ll help you with my words.

                Eisenniivituvaikiaaol

                Meaning my method (in this case, not the thread) works, yours doesn’t seem to.

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                  So why not make a new user each and every time?

                  That is… that is what I am saying you should do? VPN, email-masking, new accounts at least once a year and deleting all history from older one, and never using the same usernames, is the bare minimum. That will not protect you from surveillance, or being found, but it will make it harder, for internet randoms especially. And if you have to have accounts with names and pictures, for work or something, always keep them completely separate from accounts you actually use for freetime, and stuff.

                  I don’t see Al at all, I don’t think I’ll help you with my words.

                  Very wrong translation though, so surprisingly that still works too.

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                    That is… that is what I am saying you should do?

                    But now you’ve replied twice. That’s a pattern! They can track you now. Oh why, oh why didn’t you change your username…?!

                    Very wrong translation though

                    Nope. It’s just somewhat wrong, not “very” wrong. You still very much get the essence. And as I showed you, you can do it without the AI even getting the gist.

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        Yeah my name is recognizable enough now that misogynists will routinely go through my post history. It’s daily at this point.

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        Huh, I don’t really have much advise to that, but it’s an understanble reaction. I gotta say that there have been times my first reaction to a reply has been negative, but upon rereading it I have noticed that it was just my reaction. I like that here I learn new stuff every day and that people are willing to politely correct me (/share their opinion or experience on the matter.) I hope you find your place, if not here then maybe on some other site!