Protip to not become a resentful adult: Vent and vent often. Keeping that shit bottled up is the starting breeding ground for most of today’s personality disorders.
Quiet resentment eventually begets external aggression.
Vent, but work to heal the underlying trauma. I’ve definitely met people with personality disorders that vent constantly, but they don’t actually work on healing the damage and developing orthopraxia. If your perception of self or others seems destructive (even if you feel it’s true) try discussing it with a professional. Maybe there’s no issue, but maybe you’ll get some tools to keep you from engaging in destructive behavior
There have been a ton of studies over the last several years that show that venting doesn’t work, and can sometimes even make things worse. Not trying to invalidate your own experience, but this probably isn’t the best advice for everyone.
Or just surround yourself with competent and responsible people, and shut out incompetent and irresponsible ones out of your life so you don’t have anyone to resent.
Can confirm.
Protip to not become a resentful adult: Vent and vent often. Keeping that shit bottled up is the starting breeding ground for most of today’s personality disorders.
Quiet resentment eventually begets external aggression.
For me the quiet resentment has begotten a wicked dark humour, which I’m generally good with 😏
People tell me I’m hilarious all. the. time. Wish I was actually that happy.
They say the clown is often the saddest person in the room. It’s certainly true for me as well
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sense of* (unless, like the former, your medical treatments are from the Renaissance)
Vent, but work to heal the underlying trauma. I’ve definitely met people with personality disorders that vent constantly, but they don’t actually work on healing the damage and developing orthopraxia. If your perception of self or others seems destructive (even if you feel it’s true) try discussing it with a professional. Maybe there’s no issue, but maybe you’ll get some tools to keep you from engaging in destructive behavior
There have been a ton of studies over the last several years that show that venting doesn’t work, and can sometimes even make things worse. Not trying to invalidate your own experience, but this probably isn’t the best advice for everyone.
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0272735824000357
Or just surround yourself with competent and responsible people, and shut out incompetent and irresponsible ones out of your life so you don’t have anyone to resent.
How does that happen, exactly? Asking for a friend.
You just do it. If someone is continually incompetent, stop interacting with them.
Tell me you’re < 30 without giving away the number. 🥴
I’m 44
Happy for you to have something come so easily to you that many of us are genuinely struggling with. Thanks for the locker room clarity, coach.