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me when i dont prepare them for that and end up fuckung something up and losing them
This is why dating is hard for me.
I’m calm cool and collected when I don’t feel safe.
Then as soon as I do, I’m immediately too much.
Same. So many times I’ve heard, “you’re too open” or similar. And if I think to much and mask then, “you’re too quiet” or similar. I never know how unmasked and open to be on dates. Just started seriously trying to date again, and it’s so hard. Wish there was an easier way to find people who are ND or ND accepting.
Ok, so.
The last 5 women I went on dates with have been neurodivergent. I matched with two NTs, and you know what? The NDs understand how to connect.
Every single ND woman I’ve dated in the past few months could tell when I put on a mask, and reminded me she was safe.
And you know what? I still overwhelmed two of them. But the others? They were unphased.
Yeah, same. When I’ve been able to find them. I just have a hard time meeting people. Apps suck, I don’t drink a lot so bars aren’t my thing, and I’m not super into kink. Too old for school, and I work remotely. Seems like that’s where most people I know tend to meet.
For me I can largely minimize this by working full time and having a time consuming hobby. Recently I’ve opened up to my roomate and we’ve gotten really close, but when I feel like I’m becoming obsessive I try to sidetrack myself on working on 3d print models or coding or some long story based game. It’s not a perfect solution (definitely hard to peel myself off of them sometimes if I’m already around them) but I’ve at least gotten to “not annoying enough to cut off” levels lol
me when I first meet someone vs me one hour later
Never again
