I’ve noticed that there seems to be an emphasis on being extremely serious at all times, as if every single comment is a PhD dissertation being evaluated or something. There’s like this weird, subtle one upmanship about every little thing and a lot of people are very nitpicky and judgmental. It kind of takes the fun out of being on here, TBH. Or am I the only one experiencing this?
The other reason I haven’t move is because there are also a couple of long term friends I miss deeply and I think if I just hold on for a while they will come back around
Ex has a new bf who is one of my former acquaintances and I think eventually she will pull the same shit on him and people will see I am not the badman
Didn’t originally want to forgive any ex friends but I can totally understand why they took her side (she’s good at this) and I think I’m ready to forgive if they meet me halfway
I hope your friends come back, but y’know I also hope you start rebuilding your life without them in the meantime. You deserve to move on not for their sake, but for yours and your peace.
I totally understand missing them.
Losing friends is way worse than losing girls. There’s no real playbook for navigating this. Lots of stuff about navigating breakups. But being ghosted and hated by bros who knew me 15+ years who I spent my 20s with travelling the world just cuts so deep.
Would love to not allow them to live rent free here but man, I think about those guys every friggin day. Been in therapy for this for over a year now and have to admit I haven’t made any real progress on this front
I’m actually doing pretty good now things considered. My new gf is such a sweetheart and just after a year of dating I think im gonna marry her. I never had any intention of marrying my ex even when things were going well. Something about her just scared me and I couldn’t put my finger on it (autist here, bad at picking up on social queues)
When she finally was out of my life my dad helped me buy a house. Said he was waiting for her to be gone for 8 years and that’s why he wasn’t giving me any monetary help. GOATed dad.
The beginning of this new relationship was rocky. Once I started taking her out to local concerts and she saw all the eyes glaring at me she questioned herself why I am so universally hated despite not seeing any red flags to indicate I’m a bad guy. I’m so grateful she didn’t bail on me over this…
Thanks for letting me share this with you. I don’t have many outlets to say this irl.
Aw man, your girlfriend and dad sound awesome! It’s not a problem, have a great night :)