• whotookkarl@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    2 months ago

    If I’m understanding this correctly, the line between someone who is hyper independent and someone who is really bad at relationships or someone with preference for frequent quiet and solitude is trauma.

    Also I suspect the increase in people with lower social contact not by choice is due at least in part to not enough 3rd places that don’t require money to hang out and meet people.

    • TeraByteMarx@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      2 months ago

      Someone who’s hyper independent would prefer solitude and would likely have problems with relationships for a number of reasons including being really out of practice. And not having any reference point for understanding what a secure attachment looks and feels like.

      You can have a significant preference for being alone, require a great deal of quiet time and still suffer from social isolation.

      It’s all interconnected, we’re not designed to live a life alone.

      Having said that I still wish people would stop approaching me when I leave the house :/