Is there really anyone out there who doesn’t know that raping someone is fucked up?
Everyone agrees rape is bad. But there are plenty of people with a very narrow definition of rape. They think rape is only when someone forces themselves against a kicking and screaming victim. Teaching young boys not to rape means teaching them about consent, how to confirm it, knowing it can be revoked at any time. It means calling out your friend’s bad behavior. Also, we can still teach girls to defend themselves too. Nobody is saying we shouldn’t do that. Just that it shouldn’t be considered the main solution. That’s a victim-blaming mindset that minimizes all of the social norms enabling rape and sexual violence.
Of course we should teach kids about consent! Of course we should not blame the victim! That was not the point of my post.
The message I hate is “don’t use these tips to minimize the chances to be raped, just teach boys not to rape”, as if that would be so easy. This meme is the same, making fun of useful tips.
Everyone agrees rape is bad. But there are plenty of people with a very narrow definition of rape. They think rape is only when someone forces themselves against a kicking and screaming victim. Teaching young boys not to rape means teaching them about consent, how to confirm it, knowing it can be revoked at any time. It means calling out your friend’s bad behavior. Also, we can still teach girls to defend themselves too. Nobody is saying we shouldn’t do that. Just that it shouldn’t be considered the main solution. That’s a victim-blaming mindset that minimizes all of the social norms enabling rape and sexual violence.
Of course we should teach kids about consent! Of course we should not blame the victim! That was not the point of my post.
The message I hate is “don’t use these tips to minimize the chances to be raped, just teach boys not to rape”, as if that would be so easy. This meme is the same, making fun of useful tips.