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That’s the deciding factor for me.

I stopped listening to Lizzo so fucking fast because her actions and her art were in direct contradiction with each other.

Being innappropriate with children will also make me stop consuming media from that person.

I was in and out of the hospital at least once a month for many years before doctors finally diagnosed me. Achiness, exhaustion, open sores in my mouth and my genitals and the pain was so bad I couldn’t eat or walk. Like clockwork, those sores would heal and then two weeks later more would erupt. I had to drop out of college because I wasn’t well enough to sit in class.

Behcet’s Disease. A very rare autoimmune disease that presents as inflammation in small to medium arteries and can strike anywhere in the body.

I was very bitter for a long time - I was accused of being a slut, I was treated for syphilis and herpes even when I tested negative for all STIs, I was not believed about my symptoms for years and years. It sucked.

Washington, similar to Cali, has a lot more gas tax built into our prices which is why they’re higher than most states. I think like .55/gal is taxes alone.

I don’t care.

Adding to your comments while we’re actively communicating back and forth is rude. I cannot reply to the new info you’re shoving in there because you’re editing after I’ve already seen your comment.

This is a common internet courtesy. I suggest you reply in a new comment rather than edit if you have more to say in a conversation.

You did not ask a single question in the comment above:

Yes they are. And your refusal to admit men can feel fear about women is amazingly sexist. Sounds like you think it’s impossible for women to present a threat to a man.

I’ve got an amazing piece of news for you. Not all men are a monolith. Just because the only men you’ve had in your life suck doesn’t mean all men suck.

That’s like saying I ate rotten bread. Thus all bread is rotten.

Late 30s. First poked around lemmy with the Reddit API changes, fully switched over after I was banned for an anti-Israel comment.

It depends on your community. My friend group knows we’re kind of open. My parents and family don’t know anything about our sex life. It just depends.

We use these terms for relationships within the kink and poly communities to signal to each other what our relationship statuses are. It’s not for the average person one runs into on the street.

I honestly just searched for it because I have never heard the term polysexual applied in this way. I also wasn’t trying to imply that polyamorous people engage in one night stands and casual sex, either, but you read into that as well.

I’m bisexual, I’ve been involved in the kink, poly, and LGBT+ community in my area for a long time. I wasn’t trying to “no homo” anything, I just prefer using the term monogamish to describe my current relationship because that describes it really well:

First coined by legendary sex columnist Dan Savage, “monogamish” refers to a relationship style wherein mostly monogamous couples choose to have extra-relational sexual experiences, often sparingly and with strict boundaries that only allow for non-monogamous activity under very specific circumstances.

polysexual

Polysexual individuals are those who are attracted to people of multiple genders. Notably, the prefix “poly” means many.

People who identify as polysexual often use that word because it suggests a greater variety of sexual orientations than traditional gender binaries of male and female, or hetero- and homosexual. Each person will have their own specific preferences when it comes to who they are attracted to.

Isn’t that an attraction to all genders? Why are you so hellbent on defining my relationship boundaries?

I don’t think our situation falls into poly-sexual since it’s usually one night stand type of situations though.

Monogamish fits my relationship and it’s been a term in use for decades at this point.

I understand, but being overly negative about it will also discourage people.

My friend ignored her symptoms too long and died. I’d rather people try to get screenings done if they think there’s a problem rather than sucking it up and pushing through.

You’re right but it’s also dependent on your doctor, your symptoms, and where you live. Please don’t discourage others from seeking out treatment for this because it might be difficult to get insurance to cover it.

I’ve had a lot of success on feeld, both as a unicorn AND a unicorn “hunter”.

Damn, deep fried snickers sounds so good!

Hah while I’ve been lucky enough to have had drinks at the Unicorn, I didn’t pick anyone up there! Mostly have met people through Feeld or friends of friends tbh.

Yeah pretty much! Monogamish is just a fun word to describe being mostly monogamous with a little bit of extra sex lol

Ooohhh will this be like the DARE program and actually end up converting students to support communism??

I know I learned a LOT about recreational drugs from school <3

There’s a lot of different relationship types out there. It’s not the same as saying I’m a vegan except when I eat meat. That’s like saying pescatarians are the same as vegans which are the same as meat eaters.

I’ve been in plenty of relationship models - poly, swingers, group sex, etc. There’s distinct differences that should be respected in each.

But we’re not poly. We don’t nurture relationships with other people. We’re just open to having sex with others on occasion.

Dan Savage originally came up with the term “monogamish”:

“Monogamish” is a relationship model coined by sex columnist Dan Savage to describe couples who are 90–95% monogamous but allow for occasional, agreed-upon outside sexual experiences.

Hopefully more women will join lemmy. It’s quite the cesspool in here.

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