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  • what everyone said but i would add watch macros to find balance. swapping out fat for more fibre and protien goes a long way especially with reducing visceral fat which can have a long impact on things like reducing stroke and organ diseases.

    keep sugar down around 25g. the average person gets up to like 5 times that amount a day or even in one meal. and any eat sugar you do eat, eat it with fibre so its not released into your system all at once.





  • for some, yes it is very much like that meaning.

    codependency, for example. we cant just stuff everyone’s mental health under one umbrella and assume they know what a simple sentence means without injecting their own meaning from experience into it.

    and dont get me started on how distorted ‘respect’ can be for people coming out of traumatic relationships. not everyone on the other side of this conversation is just some disrespectful teenager taking everything for granted and needing to have respect explained to them as a formal way of connecting.




  • Smoogs@lemmy.worldtoComic Strips@lemmy.world•Finding Friends
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    I think studying that nuance is important before giving advice.

    Telling a person to just be nice with absolutely no other factor can paint a target on their head and put them in danger.

    Such as the power of observance to sense a danger. Place, location could be important. As is time. If you’re in more chances of being around the same people repeatedly to be able to assess their behaviour as safe enough would be another nuance that is important to know.

    you can be nice to anyone without making friends which is ok but making friends with them is vastly different. friend ship is a whole other channel involving give, take, sharing, trust, boundaries, vulnerability, time and intimacy and should be treated with care.

    And …Well for all we know of eachother as strangers online anyone on here could be this person who is being nice to everyone and are being completely taken advantage of. They could be full boil in a codpendency and have a distorted sense this is friendship. And just on here giving bad advice to others to get taken advantage of cus they believe dysfunction is how relationships work. The person giving the bad advice have no such boundaries and even perhaps hate and judge such boundaries as it means some hard self reflection.


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    right!? its always sociopths or addicts. cuz they are out there looking for exactly that.

    My better friends were vetted through other friends, work, community sessions or school where more neutral time was spent to sit with the person to assess safety before committing personal time to them.









  • That’s a very reductive meaning of word minority.

    Minority doesn’t just quantity. You can have large quantities of slaves and they are still the minority in a world where money=power.

    Billionaires are not at risk of disenfranchised by someone with more power eg: money. In a world that benefits those with money with power.

    They don’t have their lives literally at risk over not being able to pay a medical bill. Or eat.

    Billionaires benefit from social economic oppression.

    Billionaires are social economic oppression.