I’d love it if Secret World (preferably the original release, not Legends) was a singleplayer RPG instead of the half-assed MMORPG that it was. You could lower the enemy density and respawns, maybe add some computer-controlled party members Guild Wars 1 style, and it would be the dopest thing ever. The lore, vibe, and worldbuilding in this game is immaculate, it’s just a shame it’s strapped to an MMO framework.

Sorry that that happened to you! Unfortunately there are many people in lesbian communities that can be quite judgemental about such things.

And some people just simply haven’t considered the difference between being attracted to and physical enjoyment derived from sex with somebody. Look at asexual people (who generally experience very limited or no sexual attraction) - some of them are having partners and enjoying sex, and it’s incorrect to say that they aren’t ace anymore because of that (although there has been some drama regarding this topic, go figure). Same in your case.

I’d say saying you’re a lesbisn is absolutely fine - you’re the final arbiter of your own identity.

Arbitrarily forcing a choice to clarify your feelings on the matter can actually be very useful, it’s just a bit rude to use other people for it. When I have a choice like this I’ll sometimes throw some dice (d6, 1-3 for white, 4-6 for blue), if I’m happy or don’t mind what they landed on then it’s the correct choice, if I’m not I’ll probably realize which option I was secretly hoping for and go with that.

I had to check what community I’m in, still can’t believe this is not the Onion.