My bio father just passed away. I was talking to his best friend of 45 years, basically his brother, and he casually dropped he was raped as a boy. I had asked about my fathers sister, because a lot of that family is scattered and a mess, the daughter of the sister “something happened” is all I know. And he said molestation, and then that he too, was molested by a man as a boy. I was really proud of the 68 year old mam telling me that.

But fucking, add it to the list. Men need a fucking ‘me too’ because I know so, so, many.

And half the stuff on the list are things boomers buy too. Coffee? Apparel? …streaming services when they had cable?

Fucking goofball shit

Omg no :(

I also have auditory processing disorder. It sucks. Why I always liked teachers who wrote on the board as they lectured, I’d even read the chapter from the book instead of listening to the teacher. Thats great you found what worked for you! You found what worked and became successful despite your struggles! That’s resiliency!

Great tips. I love the Dogman series because it shows kids folks with ADHD can do cool things too. Anytime we can work a special interest in, it is helpful

Maybe as we advance, today we are still at the basics.

Like, this is what I’m working with. He is in Special Edu, and this is the improvement. It’s terrible, but we continue. Cursive helped me a bit, especially the fusion style you mention. I’m glad I’ve found this book. I have him write (and rewrite) a lot over the years, (this is not his best work at all) but I’ve pulled the ideas out my bum honestly. I’m glad this book has structure. We can do 15-20 mins, or a half a lesson, at a time so he doesn’t get overwhelmed and he can feel empowered to write. He spelled generosity almost right the first go, and hearing him being proud of that was, so cool.

Block printing is a cool skill, I wish I could do it. It’s the step you take after learning to write legibly, how to write beautifully. I’ll be happy to get him in the lines lol thats truly a useful skill your father taught you :)

It’s more important for me (for my son) to understand vocabulary because its a precursor for critical thinking and even emotional regulation. You can’t talk about why youre mad, or how your feeling if you dont have the vocabulary to do so. I’m just sneaking writing and note taking skills into it vocabulary lessons. Root word understanding grant you access to the whole language. That is so important imo

No but screens crack, they lose the chargers, there are excuses

Which is why we practice it. Why we teach it.

My son is 12, ADHD (&others) and in special education. His first semester in middle school last year, he smashed his Chromebook, on purpose, to break it. Hes now only allowed to use a computer for state testing. Luckily, he is in small classrooms with the IEP so nearly all his work is on paper. I refuse to sign the permissionfor computer use and the teachers agree and haven’t faught me on it at all.

He recently told me he didn’t know what barbaric meant. Annoyed, realizing we lost the pocket dictionary some time ago, I went to the bookstore and got the best dictionary they had. I also, saw this:

So I grabbed it. There are lessons and quizzes in it teaching root word definitions. We’ve done a couple lessons now. I have him take notes, writing the word and the definition in his own words, unless it a short definition, then it’s easy. But then, he can use those notes to take the quiz. Ive done this so he can learn to note take. It will only take a few open note quizes to realize the importance of reading them back, and structuring your notes in a way that are useful. It’s all practice, and it needs to start early. My son’s handwriting is shit, absolute garbage. But he’s been writing everything at school since fall of '24, and there has been improvement in spelling, legibility and vocabulary, exponentially in the last couple years.

The whole point of writing is to convey a message. If ones writing isn’t legible, it is lost, and this needs to be understood by students. They can adapt to their needs.

I have ADHD also, I worked very hard at my schoolwork, I wasn’t diagnosed until far after I left school. I used short form I made up myself, and just got better at writing main ideas down. The schools… Are so dumbed down today, even in gen ed. These (middle school) teachers are not giving hour lectures expecting these kids to take proper notes. But,that doesn’t mean kids can’t get better with practice.

My son’s writing is garbage, so I have him write more. Being bad at something isn’t an excuse to give up. Being he is in special edu, and I can’t goddamn go to work (I’m so ready to go back to work omg) I spend a lot of energy stuffing as much education I can into him at home in support of the teachers’ efforts.

If an artist is bad a drawing hands, they could, in theory, never draw a hand in their work. OR, they can draw all the goddamn hands until they are satisfied and learned how to do it comfortably. Idk. “They can’t write fast and legibly” is just not an excuse for the average student IMO, because notetaking is a skill that is learned.

My aldi tortilla Chips are processed.

My aldi bread is UPF.

I don’t understand your anger/frustration.

I just dont like the idea of ingesting stuff I can’t make on my own. And obviously we still use some of it, but it’s not a bad idea to limit UPF for your health. Meals cooked from scratch are a health benefit.

I didn’t post the Mayo clinic source, they did, so I used that.

I went through this learning when I lost 80 pounds when I was 20, during the Obama years, and I kept it off leaning on home cooking, whole food meals most of the time. Avoiding stuff like yellow #5 which, I think is disgusting as its a petroleum by product, but avoiding UPF is how I maintain my weight in car centric Usa. It cuts out all the junk very easily this way, and its not actually that complicated

this all makes sense to me.

It’s how the ingredients were made, that go into the food.

If you were avoiding UPFs you could have everything on this list except the ice cream (and not all ice cream are UPF to note) and standard American grocery loaf of bread (bread that usually has a few grams of sugar per slice for some reason, to tangent).

Per the mayo clinic source, its not made up.

UPFs no longer resemble any food found in nature or within historical human processing. These foods are new invention using already processed foods combined with food chemistry and industrialization.

Group 4 is the naughty stuff. Group 4 ingredients are only used by food manufacturers. For example, You don’t purchase Silicon dioxide as a kitchen staple.

Wearing glasses is ultra processed? damn

Pizza, made right, isn’t ultra processed. Flour, oil, tomato sauce and cheese are simply processed foods.

It’s the ingredients that are changed using chemistry, food science, and heavy machinery that are ultra processed. Stuff like, Silicon dioxide, calcium silicate, magnesium stearate, BHA, BHT, sodium benzoate, potassium sorbate…these things are ultra processed. Flour is simply processed.

There is a big difference between processed foods, and ultra processed. I don’t think it’s a bad idea for anyone to limit or avoid ultra processed foods.

Edit, fuck rfk

Edit edit, for my comrades, if you avoild UPFs, you also avoid food corpos automatically. You dont support Nestlé, or Hershey, or whoever makes Pringles, Kraft or Kellogg, you dont support these giant food corps who underpay their workers and have shady anti human business practices. Using whole food ingredients and simple processed ingredients, farming, gardening and cooking are all revolutionary practices you can do today. Fuck the big man ya know, you don’t like capitalism stop eating its food.

I some times browse their menus when I’m in a depressive state, but in reality, I havnt had fast food, out side of one crunchwrap (that absolutely sucked) in the last 5-7 years. I got a black bean crunchwrap sometime last summer, and it just confirmed why I don’t go to these places at all anymore. It’s so unhealthy anyway, and there’s absolutely no benefit if you ignore that either. In my youth I went ten years with no fast food. Broke my veganism for Wendy’s sometime in 2014… Aye, but were getting back there.

I feel like cooking is an act of defiance in today’s capitalist world. There are many benefits to doing so. Don’t support them, it’s simple.

There’s a Polish club in my state that offers Polish language classes.

There is a very small group of Polish immigrants here, I’m thinking of taking the next class (the one offered is already in session). I live pretty far from where they’re at, but honestly, it’s a beautiful language.

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But I like pineapple pizza

Everytime I go to the store in the last few months, the chicken is severely picked over, and the beef is full stocked.

I have been wondering if beef is actually going to waste because no one is buying it.

Lot of pride here… Good for you?

Kids don’t always grow up to be their parents. I found such a broad statement to put such a sour taste in my mouth when I read it.

Feels pretty privledged, and like, good for you, but damn this statement … Is very broad, dare I say arrogant. Plenty of good kids come from shitty people and vice versa.

Anyway, enjoy your adult kids and thanks for sharing

My instance actually posted something about IRC recently I saw, right after commenting. The luck. I saw the mirc client link, and the memories flooded. Mirc is still okay though?

I’m basically a noob again. Later this week I plan to sit down with my computer and have a look. I used to only use it to download music, probably would like to do that again… I had every NoFx album,song,recording back in the day. Every single one lol I’d die to have that hard drive back.

You dont give children tablets and phone, full stop.

Absofucking- lutely!

My 12 year old has zero unsupervised access to the internet. Zero. “But they’ll suffer sociallly!”

Will they? My son has tons of friends and they play sports and Nerf guns. And, he can read. A whole chapter book, on his own, without prompting.

Suffer socially, ask the “incels” who have recovered if the internet access they had as teens “helped them socially”.