but… where is the furry porn D:

Doubt

Yeah, no. There are many good examples of this, where you just have to use something and still criticize it. But Gmail is like the farthest away from that you can be. There are thousands of alternatives, and of which you can choose, and get basically exactly the same experience. It’s an open federated protocol; there is no reason at all to stay at the single worst instance that tries to monopolize the whole protocol and uses your data.

Either we’re effectively freeloading with regards to Lemmy’s sustainment and development, even if we have the resources to contribute, or else we’re donating money to literal genocide deniers who use that money to cultivate an instance that suppresses acknowledgement of genocide and imperialism.

No, you can also donate money to independent servers like Lemmy.world and support them and the ecosystem without the awful devs.
Independently to that, why do you use Piefed and not Kbin?