Ideologically, no. In reality, yes.

Had you not been participating in the activities, they would likely not have any attention placed on them.

In the same way you are trying to initiate changes by putting pressure on those who you feel are doing wrong, those who feel that YOU are in the wrong will put pressure on you. Harassing your relatives not only puts pressure on you from your relatives, but is also designed to break you emotionally by watching the people you care about be hurt.

I’m not saying it’s right, but it’s the way things work.