There is a difference between hate and blame. It’s perfectly reasonable to hate someone for trauma they inflicted in a way they can’t constructively be blamed for. Hatred is a way to create psychological and physical distance so the trauma and accompanying schemas can heal, or at least not be triggered as often. Something has to prevent your love for your parents from getting you in harm’s way time and time again. And expressing hatred can help process it, as you’ve helped me do just now.
Because you’re right, I did muddy that difference in my mind while writing the comment. It’s not that they should have been leftists, but that they should have been leftists.
I would say you don’t even need to hate. If someone hit you with a knife, and is still unrepentant throwing knives and defending knife throwing, then you should rightly get away from that person for your own safety.
Just because they can’t be blamed for participating in the system doesn’t mean you have to accept them as they are or forgive them when they hurt you. It’s like free speech, you can say what you want but I don’t have to stay here and listen.
It’s cool you considered what I said. Most people, often including me, just like to argue. I really enjoyed reading your reply and interpretation.
There is a difference between hate and blame. It’s perfectly reasonable to hate someone for trauma they inflicted in a way they can’t constructively be blamed for. Hatred is a way to create psychological and physical distance so the trauma and accompanying schemas can heal, or at least not be triggered as often. Something has to prevent your love for your parents from getting you in harm’s way time and time again. And expressing hatred can help process it, as you’ve helped me do just now.
Because you’re right, I did muddy that difference in my mind while writing the comment. It’s not that they should have been leftists, but that they should have been leftists.
I would say you don’t even need to hate. If someone hit you with a knife, and is still unrepentant throwing knives and defending knife throwing, then you should rightly get away from that person for your own safety.
Just because they can’t be blamed for participating in the system doesn’t mean you have to accept them as they are or forgive them when they hurt you. It’s like free speech, you can say what you want but I don’t have to stay here and listen.
It’s cool you considered what I said. Most people, often including me, just like to argue. I really enjoyed reading your reply and interpretation.